Killing Kittens Sex Parties Hits MCR

NAKED and oily seems as good a time as any to discuss the arrival of a new elite sex club in Manchester.

"Maybe around three-quarters get involved in sexual activity. But then it could end up with just me and the security guy wearing clothes and everybody is naked. Each party takes on its own form."

“Have you heard of Killing Kittens?” asked my chum and masseuse as she thumbed out one of four hundred conker-sized back knots.

“Is that some kind of neo-Punk anti-Putinist Russian feminist protest rock band?” I asked, biting down on the pillow like a handsome new inmate.

“It’s an exclusive sex party,” she replied, “it’s just come up to Manchester.”

Interest piqued.

Images of a sex party usually involve tubby bus drivers and their equally tubby housewives who are very bored of one another (but daring not to admit it because they’d have to split the TV, fridge and cat) so seek sweaty solace with some equally uncomely couple in a car park just off the A58 near Rochdale.

Killing Kittens wants to change that preconception.

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The naked truth of Killing Kittens is this: Firstly, it’s an 'exclusive orgy'. Secondly, it’s all about the women (the girls make the rules and approach the guys). Thirdly, it’s just touched down in Manchester.

Launched in 2005, Killing Kittens now has over 35,000 members in the UK and has been featured in GQ, Mail Online, Glamour, The Times, Esquire, Playboy… the list goes on.

Sex has always been big business. Sex sells. It always has and it always will. Killing Kittens are repackaging the sex and selling it back to us (not like that) wearing a bow-tie, stockings and cradling a flute of Bolly.

We pinned down the Manchester arm of Killing Kittens, Jordie (real name Nat), to pull that kitten firmly out of the bag:

So tell us about KK?

It’s not a new brand, the parties have been taking place since 2005, but it is new to Manchester. It’s an exclusive sex party and all about the girls. We create an environment in which the ladies can go and express their sexuality in a totally safe environment. We’ve got rules and etiquette so that everyone feels safe and comfortable.

You've just thrown your first Manchester bash. Success?

Huge success. Since that first one my phone and email have not stopped. We’ve had great feedback and interest is booming. We’re more or less sold out for the event on Friday 7 February. It's going to be a monthly thing and we’re looking to branch out into Leeds, Liverpool and up to Scotland. We've also launched in Dublin and Brighton. Then it's world domination.

Before this you'd have to travel to London for a Killing Kittens party. We’ve got 35,000 members in the UK and 8000 alone around Manchester and Leeds. I became friends with the founder, Emma Sayle, at a London party and told her it was about time the party headed up here.

KK JordieWho’s invited?

We have all different types, but attendees are typically aged 19-45. Only couples or single girls can come along. You don’t have to be in a couple, you can just be male and female friends that want to try it out. 

Do you have to be beautiful, rich, slim and successful?

Not at all. I’ve had doctors and solicitors to builders and shop workers. We won’t discriminate because of your job. Not everyone that comes has to be buff or super slim. But our parties do tend to be full of beautiful people in beautiful venues.

So you check how someone looks before they’re allowed to come?

We do vet online applications yes. We'll look at your photo to see if you fit the bill. We don’t want just anybody to be able to turn up.

Any famous faces?

We’ve had quite a few famous people at the London parties yeah. Of course, it's strictly confidential but Luisa Zissman (currently on Celebrity Big Brother) has been very vocal about attending our parties.

Tell us how it works?

Firstly, you’ll sign up on the website. We’ll check your profile and your photo and if everything is OK you’ll be free to sign up for the parties.

You’ll arrive in a couple or as a single girl wearing masks, the masks can come off once you’re inside, or stay on, whatever you prefer. We’ll check you against the guestlist at the door and show you on through to the party. Get yourself a drink and go from there, you might want to ease yourself in to it with a few drinks, talk to other couples, some get straight down to it. The girls always approach the guys, not the other way around.

People attend for a whole load of reasons. Some want to fulfil sexual fantasies, spice things up, try out different partners, have people watch or watch others themselves. Some just want to see what all the fuss is about.

The important thing is, you go as far as you want to. Some just come along, have a few drinks and watch. That's what they're in to and that's fine. It’s all up to the individual.

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So you don’t have to participate?

You don’t have to do anything sexual if you don’t want to. Like I say, some just like to get dressed up, have a few drinks and watch others. Some like to be watched. I repeat, how far you go is completely up to you. You’re not expected to do anything. It may take you a couple of parties to warm-up to the idea of having sex, others dive straight in. But there’s no pressure.

How many do get involved?

Maybe around three quartes get involved in sexual activity. But then it could end up with just me and the security guy wearing clothes and everybody is naked. Each party takes on its own form.

The ladies pull the stringsIs there a dress code?

Mainly suits and cocktail dresses. But if we’re doing a theme then it’s whatever is easiest to get out off. In London we have the hedonist parties in a Turkish baths with saunas and huge jacuzzis.

The Manchester party in February has a glitter theme. I’m really interested in doing a toga party next. I like the idea of a Roman orgy.

Where do the parties take place?

Penthouses, high-end hotels, manor houses. All gorgeous venues full of gorgeous people. I’ve been looking around venues in Manchester and Cheshire all day today actually. Big country houses and hotels, but there’s utter confidentiality so I can’t tell you where. Attendees only find out where the venue is 24 hours before the event.

How much does it cost?

It can depend per venue but in Manchester it’s £40 for a single lady and £100 for a couple. That includes free champagne for the first hour. Initial sing-up online is free.

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How safe is it?

There’s condoms absolutely everywhere you go. That’s a priority. We’re all about safe sex. There's strictly no camera phones or photos of any kind. In terms of security we don’t have in-your-face bouncers. What we do have is inconspicuous people at the party that will keep an eye on proceedings, monitor behaviour, making sure people aren’t too drunk or being inappropriate. We've never had any trouble. But it’s there for your peace of mind.

Do you get many single women?

More than you think. It is mostly couples but there’s more and more single girls coming along. A lot of them come to join in with other couples.

Not every couple that comes along is in a relationship, even if they are they might both want to have sex with other people. So it’s not hard for single girls to find what they’re looking for. Some are naturally quite nervous at first. But it's such a cool, safe and comfortable environment that they soon loosen up. I've met with a number of single girls just for a coffee or a drink so that they know a face when they first get there.

How many parties have you been to?

I’ve only organised the one just gone in Manchester, but I’ve participated in quite a few in London. I oversee at the Manchester parties, I don’t participate. I still go to the London parties.

How did you first get into it?

It was an ex-partner's friend that told us. It sounded fun and unique. The appeal for me was how unsleazy the whole thing is. It’s a sex party but you don’t really feel like you’re in a sex party. That sounds odd but it doesn't feel as you'd expect it to. I’ve had amazing nights going to these things, so we’re trying to throw away the stigma attached to sex parties.

What would you say to those unsure about coming along?

We’ve got so many wanting to come anyway that it doesn't really matter to us. They sell out very, very quickly. There are limited spaces, 8000 members around here with a party of only 100-200 places. Of course they sell out quickly.

A sudden wave of mischief washes across Nat's face, "You should come along and check us out," she says.

For the sake of thorough, hard-hitting investigative writing and credibility, I just might do that. More to follow...

Killing Kittens founder, Emma Sayle 

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